Lead A Group

You and I belong in community, and leading a group is a great way to make that happen. Simply choose a topic or activity that interests you and select a time and location to meet with others to share it. We believe people’s lives are changed by moving one step at a time towards Christ, and as a small group leader, you get to be a part of that.

No matter what your group meets about, each meeting should be made up of four things:

  1.  Casual fellowship Laid back time for group members to talk and get to know each other.
  2. Discussion or Activity This will vary based on what kind of group you’re leading. It could be a discussion about a book or Sunday message an outreach or an activity like hiking.
  3. Prayer Ask for prayer requests from group members and pray at the beginning and/or the end of each group
  1. Spiritual Component This is what differentiates your Small Group from your neighborhood supper club. Whether it’s through activities or discussion, always find a way to include the Word of God. This can be as simple as sharing something God is teaching you with the group or talking about a verse you read that


  • Consider partnering with Co-Leader to help share the responsibility of caring for and leading your group
  • Connect with your group members outside of weekly meetings through phone, email, text, social media or face-to-face.
  • Encourage group members to connect with each other throughout the week as well.
  • Have fun through laughter and by creating an enjoyable
  • Respect people’s time by beginning and ending your group on
  • Invite group members to attend church services and events with you like conferences, or outreach
  • Rally the group around a member going through a crisis. Use wisdom and be sensitive


 Prayer is the foundation of our church, and it is fundamentally important for your Small Group.

  • Pray for any requests group members
  • Ask for the presence of the Holy Spirit in your
  • Pray that God will open people’s hearts to hear His
  • Pray for authentic community to
  • Pray for wisdom and strength to lead your group


 If you only do what you feel comfortable doing, you don’t need God. God’s best is often found outside your comfort zone.

When you serve God and people by leading a Small Group, He will equip you and give you the strength and wisdom to lead well. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. PHILIPPIANS 4:13 NLT

When you feel uncertain about leading a group, use Scripture to overcome the lies of the enemy. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. 2 TIMOTHY 1:7 NLT

When you feel like you don’t have the time, remember, and His timing is perfect. If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done. ECCLESIASTES 11:4 TLB

When you feel unqualified, remember, It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God. He has enabled us to be ministers of His new covenant. 2 CORINTHIANS 3:5-6 NLT

When you feel like your past disqualifies you, remember, Praise be to the God and father of our lord Jesus Christ, the father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all Our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the Comfort we ourselves receive from god. 2 CORINTHIANS 1:3-4


 Set expectations

A key to helping people feel comfortable in your group is to let them know what to expect. Take time to share how the group will flow from week to week. This can include things like explaining the times you will begin and end the group, how discussion or group activities will happen, and how group members can share prayer requests or best engage in the group.

Follow the 70-30 rule

Give the members of your group room to speak up instead of doing all the talking yourself. About 70% of talking should come from members and 30% from the leader.

Keep discussion positive

If conversation takes a negative or destructive turn, guide it back to a healthy place. If someone needs to talk about a sensitive or complex issue, you can follow up with them after the group or call your coach to help you respond well.

Keep the conversation relevant to everyone

Remember people in your group will be at different places in their spiritual journey. Be thoughtful when you talk about spiritual concepts or church terms that might be unfamiliar to new Christians or new church-goers.

Respect boundaries

Men should minister to men and women should minister to women. A couple may minister to a single person. We want to maintain integrity and purity in our Small Groups. These boundaries will help protect the leaders and group members from entering into an uncomfortable or inappropriate situation.

Leadership Tools

 We give you essential tools to make your small group successful such as leadership training, support during the small group semester, and a directory where you can register your group so others can find it easily. Leadership training happens throughout the year at the Destiny Growth Track and also at the beginning of each small group semester. Find dates and times at destinycarolina.com/groups. Click here for a Power Point Presentation on Small Group Leadership Training.